How do you communicate with your children?

What are all the different ways we can communicate with each other?  Speaking is just one way isn’t it?  There’s:

body language


facial expression

sign language


any more?

I read somewhere a while ago that we should try writing a note for our children as an alternative to speaking, especially if that method isn’t working, we may sound like a nag (apparently) or just be sick of asking and being ignored.  Also sometimes people don’t respond well to being told (out loud) either.

Well in our home, we have recently have decided to crack down on the fact that our mini me’s take a bowl full cereal in the morning and ALWAYS leave some in the bottom as well as milk.  We’ve tried incentives in the past to help them not do this any more but it’s carried on.  So now, even though it sounds harsh, we fine them 50p if they leave any whilst continually saying “only take what you know you can eat”.

So far they’ve each had to pay a fine (bless) but it does seem to be working.

Anyway, this week, we’re running low on cereal and I did the weekly shop yesterday.  I’m strictly only shopping once a week now unless absolutely necessary (in an attempt to control the shopping bill).  So I decided to make some home made granola this morning (as we have loads of oats).  It does take a while but I carried out the various stages in and around all the other jobs I needed to get done in the house today.

When I finally poured it into the container, I decided to write a note to my children on top of it:

a tupperware container containing homemade granola with a note saying Dear Pip and Flo please only take what you can eat this took me ages to make thank you mummy


We’ll see what the response is, I’ll let you know…

What do you think?  Have you tried writing a note?  It doesn’t have to be a request either, it could be a simple ‘affection note’ on your child’s pillow, telling them why you love them or what is special about them. (Think about how nice it is to spontaneously receive a lovely note yourself – really nurturing).

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the letters of my name Fiona in order to sign off